Personal Success…. this is one of my favorite terms. What is personal success? Its definition is defined by the user.
I am hoping to inspire women, real women not the TV and media portrayal of women, but real everyday women trying to live our lives and be the best that we can be at whatever we do. I am hoping to help them to achieve their personal success. The reason I use the term personal successis that my definition of personal success and your definition of personal success are probably very different and unique as they should be, everyone’s is. We each measure success by our own definition, success is not defined at wealth, but it is defined by what YOU are looking to achieve for YOURSELF!
Each week we will discuss the different tools that we need to achieve our personal success, or at least our sanity.
Now to our title – It’s all about me….or at least it should be. I am sure many of you will recognize yourself. One thing that I had always been so proud about was I was home with my kids and working from home, and how I sacrificed for my family. My children wore fantastic clothes, but not me. My house was spotless, most of the time, my husband was happy and I worked from home late into the night. I was exhausted, but I was happy right? Sure – I was doing what I was supposed to do.
One day a friend of mine invited me out to get my nails done. I thought, how can I do this? It’s so frivolous and I have a thousand things to do at home. I believe that my friend sensed my discomfort. She taught me a valuable lesson that day. She told “Francine, you need to relax. You need to take time for yourself. A happy you will make you a better Mom, wife, Businesswoman, but most importantly it will make you a better you.” We tend to lose ourselves in the many roles that we take on as a woman.
“I will say I felt silly at first and I felt like I was wasting my time, with so many projects waiting at home for me. But I learned that yes, it’s wonderful to do things for yourself. That was 6 years ago. I regularly get my nails done and love it. I love to have someone taking care of me, I love to just relax. It is my alone time. Sometimes my friends and I will get together and get pedicures together and we are all the better for it.
What we need to realize is that it is not selfish to spend time on yourself, to do something that you enjoy. It is necessary to your mental health. It took me a long time to let go of trying to be a mom, chauffer, wife, nurse, housekeeper, gardener, dog walker, and the many other hats that all of us wear. Where did I go? What about me? You will be a happy, healthier, more well rounded person when you take care of yourself.
This is your homework for the week, find something you like to do and take time to do that one thing for yourself. Don’t say you can’t find the time. No one cares if the bathroom is spotless or the dishes are in the sink.
So go do what you love, be it getting your nails done, going for coffee with some friends. Curling up on the couch with your favorite DVD or book. Get out and go for a walk, paint, shop, whatever makes you happy. And don’t let the guilt monster get you.
Be sure to post on our Inspirational pages and our Tips and Tricks pages to share with other women that are in the same position as you, and to gain strength from knowing that you are not alone in all that you are trying to do.
Be unique, be yourself.
Health, Happiness, and Personal Success
The Successful Gal